Fight Me

It's unfortunate that some debates are more often than not misunderstood as arguments. There are times when you don't really care about winning - you just want to look at both sides of something, and you need someone with a different opinion for that. On occasion, you find a topic for which you had never even considered another side to; that's when things get really interesting.
Is it because of something in our supposedly docile culture that we always think people who love to debate love to cari gaduh? We need to break out of this, or we will never be open-minded.